Comments on: No Unsolicited Baby Advice http://mommydaddyblog.com/2008/02/01/no-unsolicited-baby-advice/ Parenting With No Blueprint Tue, 03 Jan 2012 16:59:00 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v= By: Our Week In Chicago | Mommy Daddy Blog http://mommydaddyblog.com/2008/02/01/no-unsolicited-baby-advice/#comment-2384 Our Week In Chicago | Mommy Daddy Blog Sun, 18 May 2008 05:46:46 +0000 http://mommydaddyblog.com/2008/02/01/no-unsolicited-baby-advice/#comment-2384 [...] the sheets in the bed we’re sleeping in could be the culprit (yes, we co-sleep, and please, no unsolicited baby advice!), or maybe something or someone he has come into contact with since he’s in a new [...] [...] the sheets in the bed we’re sleeping in could be the culprit (yes, we co-sleep, and please, no unsolicited baby advice!), or maybe something or someone he has come into contact with since he’s in a new [...]

]]> By: Keisha http://mommydaddyblog.com/2008/02/01/no-unsolicited-baby-advice/#comment-1137 Keisha Fri, 11 Apr 2008 00:03:55 +0000 http://mommydaddyblog.com/2008/02/01/no-unsolicited-baby-advice/#comment-1137 I'm not sure if this falls under advice but it certainly was unsolicited. With both of our kids family and friends made rude comments about their names. Our son is Wilbur after (of course) my husband, his dad and grand-dad. People felt it was "old-fashioned" and didn't "sound" *ahem*... "black". Our daughter is Lillian. People didn't like her first name b/c it, too, is "old-fashioned" and doesn't sound "black" and is apparently, "an old lady's name". Oh and one of my aunts was mad b/c I didn't give her my middle name of Christine, which is my maternal grandmother's first name. But despite people's ignorance we like what we named them and have never regretted it. Our Pastor, who is my husband's grandfather , Wilbur Sr., proudly announced the birth of the 4th Wilbur and almost a year later bragged about them taking generational photos. I heard him tell people he never thought he'd see a 4th Wilbur. :) I’m not sure if this falls under advice but it certainly was unsolicited.
With both of our kids family and friends made rude comments about their names.
Our son is Wilbur after (of course) my husband, his dad and grand-dad. People felt it was “old-fashioned” and didn’t “sound” *ahem*… “black”.
Our daughter is Lillian. People didn’t like her first name b/c it, too, is “old-fashioned” and doesn’t sound “black” and is apparently, “an old lady’s name”. Oh and one of my aunts was mad b/c I didn’t give her my middle name of Christine, which is my maternal grandmother’s first name.
But despite people’s ignorance we like what we named them and have never regretted it. Our Pastor, who is my husband’s grandfather , Wilbur Sr., proudly announced the birth of the 4th Wilbur and almost a year later bragged about them taking generational photos. I heard him tell people he never thought he’d see a 4th Wilbur. :)

]]> By: 35th Week Update | Mommy Daddy Blog http://mommydaddyblog.com/2008/02/01/no-unsolicited-baby-advice/#comment-992 35th Week Update | Mommy Daddy Blog Fri, 04 Apr 2008 08:11:21 +0000 http://mommydaddyblog.com/2008/02/01/no-unsolicited-baby-advice/#comment-992 [...] I’m getting so close to delivery and we have gained more readers, I want to open Unsolicited Baby Advice back up for discussion. Rant away mamas! These icons link to social bookmarking sites where [...] [...] I’m getting so close to delivery and we have gained more readers, I want to open Unsolicited Baby Advice back up for discussion. Rant away mamas! These icons link to social bookmarking sites where [...]

]]> By: Keisha http://mommydaddyblog.com/2008/02/01/no-unsolicited-baby-advice/#comment-535 Keisha Tue, 11 Mar 2008 00:15:06 +0000 http://mommydaddyblog.com/2008/02/01/no-unsolicited-baby-advice/#comment-535 How clever of you. I MUST get that tee. If not for myself (if we ever have another) then for a friend :) . I got lots of awful, uneducated, unsolicited "advice" during both pregnancies (people still refused to believe I knew what I was doing even with my SECOND child) but I will narrow it down. ~Whilst preggy: * I was told that it was dangerous to lift my arms above my head (in order to braid my hair) because it would cause the umbilical cord to wrap around the baby's neck. *It was suggested that I not use a relaxer on my hair because it would cause the baby's hair to "turn nappy". * And I loved it (not !) when a complete stranger insisted to me that I was NOT having a boy (even though both my ultrasounds totaling 20 photos showed his "peenie-weenie") because I was not carrying low (or was it high ?) as she did with her boys. BTW: It was in fact a BOY. :o ) ~K. How clever of you. I MUST get that tee. If not for myself (if we ever have another) then for a friend :) .

I got lots of awful, uneducated, unsolicited “advice” during both pregnancies (people still refused to believe I knew what I was doing even with my SECOND child) but I will narrow it down.
~Whilst preggy:

* I was told that it was dangerous to lift my arms above my head (in order to braid my hair) because it would cause the umbilical cord to wrap around the baby’s neck.

*It was suggested that I not use a relaxer on my hair because it would cause the baby’s hair to “turn nappy”.

* And I loved it (not !) when a complete stranger insisted to me that I was NOT having a boy (even though both my ultrasounds totaling 20 photos showed his “peenie-weenie”) because I was not carrying low
(or was it high ?) as she did with her boys.
BTW: It was in fact a BOY. :o )

~K.

]]> By: February 2008: A Month In Review | Mommy Daddy Blog http://mommydaddyblog.com/2008/02/01/no-unsolicited-baby-advice/#comment-449 February 2008: A Month In Review | Mommy Daddy Blog Tue, 04 Mar 2008 18:32:55 +0000 http://mommydaddyblog.com/2008/02/01/no-unsolicited-baby-advice/#comment-449 [...] We also shared some pretty cool items that we were able to get our hands on including Mommy’s No Unsolicited Advice maternity tee, Yoplait Kids yogurt, and Breakfast Breaks! And what a better way to end off such a great month [...] [...] We also shared some pretty cool items that we were able to get our hands on including Mommy’s No Unsolicited Advice maternity tee, Yoplait Kids yogurt, and Breakfast Breaks! And what a better way to end off such a great month [...]

]]> By: JHS http://mommydaddyblog.com/2008/02/01/no-unsolicited-baby-advice/#comment-329 JHS Tue, 12 Feb 2008 20:18:23 +0000 http://mommydaddyblog.com/2008/02/01/no-unsolicited-baby-advice/#comment-329 The dumbest and most harmful advice I ever received came from the lactation specialist at the hospital during the first week after my oldest was born. She said numerous times: "Every woman can nurse." NO, they can't. I had virtually no milk and would have starved my kid had I listened to her much longer. It is a genetic characteristic: My mother, grandmother and maternal aunt all had to give up because they did not produce milk. My sister, on the other hand, had my father's genes, apparently, because she could have fed the neighborhood. Women who assume that a woman who is sticking a bottle into her kid's mouth simply doesn't want to breastfeed need to understand that for some of us it just wasn't an option. Proof positive: When I'd finally had enough and told that nurse that my husband was going to the store for formula, she verbally chastised me and then cruelly said, "Well, you'll have to get into the shower and express the milk." What milk? I pushed and shoved and pleaded with my breasts in that shower. And one measly drop came out. I have never forgotten her haughty, know-it-all tone as I was talking to her on the phone in tears with my boobs as red as any Valentine's Day heart as a result of my walking around with a screaming baby attached to me 24/7 for several days. He was HUNGRY. We bought the formula, he sucked down 2 bottles and practically passed out. With the second kid, I didn't even bother. I gave him the colostrum which was NOT replaced by milk. Then we got the bottle and he was perfectly content. Other stupid advice? "Let him cry." Never. Not once. Babies cry because they have a good reason. I never let my kids cry themselves back to sleep. I held and rocked them & have never regretted that. <em>JHS's last blog post..<a href='http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/jhsiess/lICj/~3/233381224/' rel="nofollow">But I Don’t Want To . . .</a></em> The dumbest and most harmful advice I ever received came from the lactation specialist at the hospital during the first week after my oldest was born. She said numerous times: “Every woman can nurse.” NO, they can’t. I had virtually no milk and would have starved my kid had I listened to her much longer. It is a genetic characteristic: My mother, grandmother and maternal aunt all had to give up because they did not produce milk. My sister, on the other hand, had my father’s genes, apparently, because she could have fed the neighborhood.

Women who assume that a woman who is sticking a bottle into her kid’s mouth simply doesn’t want to breastfeed need to understand that for some of us it just wasn’t an option.

Proof positive: When I’d finally had enough and told that nurse that my husband was going to the store for formula, she verbally chastised me and then cruelly said, “Well, you’ll have to get into the shower and express the milk.” What milk? I pushed and shoved and pleaded with my breasts in that shower. And one measly drop came out. I have never forgotten her haughty, know-it-all tone as I was talking to her on the phone in tears with my boobs as red as any Valentine’s Day heart as a result of my walking around with a screaming baby attached to me 24/7 for several days. He was HUNGRY. We bought the formula, he sucked down 2 bottles and practically passed out.

With the second kid, I didn’t even bother. I gave him the colostrum which was NOT replaced by milk. Then we got the bottle and he was perfectly content.

Other stupid advice? “Let him cry.” Never. Not once. Babies cry because they have a good reason. I never let my kids cry themselves back to sleep. I held and rocked them & have never regretted that.

JHS’s last blog post..But I Don’t Want To . . .

]]> By: Raquita http://mommydaddyblog.com/2008/02/01/no-unsolicited-baby-advice/#comment-278 Raquita Thu, 07 Feb 2008 01:47:09 +0000 http://mommydaddyblog.com/2008/02/01/no-unsolicited-baby-advice/#comment-278 Oh lets see... my favorite peice of 'naw I'm not doin that' would be all the coworkers who have tried to talk me out of breast feeding. The list has been long with that one. my granny thinks I should have been giving the baby a bottle of water.. like in the first weeks after she came home...um no - breast milk is wet shes fine. however now at four months she loves to sip a little water froma straw,and I'm okay with it. Everything in due time I think.. <em>Raquita's last blog post..seven year cycles and Feb</em> Oh lets see…

my favorite peice of ‘naw I’m not doin that’ would be all the coworkers who have tried to talk me out of breast feeding. The list has been long with that one.
my granny thinks I should have been giving the baby a bottle of water.. like in the first weeks after she came home…um no – breast milk is wet shes fine. however now at four months she loves to sip a little water froma straw,and I’m okay with it. Everything in due time I think..

Raquita’s last blog post..seven year cycles and Feb

]]> By: Jenn http://mommydaddyblog.com/2008/02/01/no-unsolicited-baby-advice/#comment-253 Jenn Tue, 05 Feb 2008 07:50:33 +0000 http://mommydaddyblog.com/2008/02/01/no-unsolicited-baby-advice/#comment-253 The most ridiculous advice... hmm. I have to sit and think about this. I remember one or two people trying to tactfully tell me that because I was overweight I would need a c-section. Funny, but I don't remember learning that excess fat covers up the cervix and clogs the vaginal canal! Breastfeeding spoils babies because they're being held too much. Related to breastfeeding: after having Ryan, a nurse instructed me to nurse only ten minutes per side, and after twenty minutes take him off, as he would eat too much otherwise. Nursing for such short periods of times is just asking for mastitis and supply problems, and limiting nursing for infants and young babies is basically not feeding them enough! The most ridiculous advice… hmm. I have to sit and think about this. I remember one or two people trying to tactfully tell me that because I was overweight I would need a c-section. Funny, but I don’t remember learning that excess fat covers up the cervix and clogs the vaginal canal!

Breastfeeding spoils babies because they’re being held too much.

Related to breastfeeding: after having Ryan, a nurse instructed me to nurse only ten minutes per side, and after twenty minutes take him off, as he would eat too much otherwise. Nursing for such short periods of times is just asking for mastitis and supply problems, and limiting nursing for infants and young babies is basically not feeding them enough!

]]> By: Please Excuse Our Dust… | Mommy Daddy Blog http://mommydaddyblog.com/2008/02/01/no-unsolicited-baby-advice/#comment-241 Please Excuse Our Dust… | Mommy Daddy Blog Mon, 04 Feb 2008 16:14:39 +0000 http://mommydaddyblog.com/2008/02/01/no-unsolicited-baby-advice/#comment-241 [...] we had a server upgrade and lost comments to our last 2 posts No Unsolicited Baby Advice and January 2008: A Month In Review. Thing is that when we RE-POSTED the posts, they disappeared [...] [...] we had a server upgrade and lost comments to our last 2 posts No Unsolicited Baby Advice and January 2008: A Month In Review. Thing is that when we RE-POSTED the posts, they disappeared [...]

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